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How I Met My Husband on Twitter

When I tell people my husband and I met on Twitter they usually react in the same way. First, they show genuine excitement and exclaim something like, “Oh wow,” often adding a follow-up remark like, “That is so cool!” Then there is a pause, a head tilt, maybe a wrinkled nose, a deep breath, and the question, “Wait, how?”
 
It’s a good question because sometimes it even baffles me. How exactly did this happen? When I was younger I was against meeting people to date online because I really wanted to meet someone “organically.” To me that meant in person, at work, school, or through friends. Setting up an online dating profile felt uncomfortable. I tried it once or twice before acknowledging that it just wasn’t right for me. After a year or two of being single I stopped thinking about dating and just lived my life. I started a blog, joined Twitter, moved to Asheville, NC, made a few friends, bought a house, changed jobs, and well, my life became busy and full.
 
After a few years, life in Asheville changed for me, and I decided it was time to sell my house and perhaps move on to a new town. Each night when my house was on the market I would pack a few boxes after work, watch TV, and check out what was happening on Twitter. Asheville had, and probably still has, a strong and friendly Twitter network. It’s a small town and meeting people from Twitter “in real life” isn’t that uncommon. In fact, more than once I was in a coffee shop and spotted one of the people I followed sitting nearby. It’s almost as exciting as a celebrity sighting but not quite.
 
So anyway, there I was packing my house and browsing Twitter when I saw someone say something about strawberries and wine, two of my favorite things. I replied.

I must have followed him initially for some reason but I can’t say when or why. Sometimes I find people on Twitter when another user re-tweets them or I see their name mentioned in conversations. Adam was fairly active on Twitter when I first started following him. His posts ranged from comments about the daily struggles of life…

…to his life philosophies.

Meanwhile, I was no slouch on Twitter either. I mean, look at this gem. How could you not be intrigued?

Over the next few months we occasionally tweeted with each other about trivial and not so trivial things.

After we had been tweeting back and forth for awhile, I made a move.

Not long after, something happened. He sent me a Direct Message.  Just like that, our Twitter relationship got serious.

Honestly, my first thought was, “Oh my gosh some guy from the internet just sent me a direct message. This is getting too weird. I’m out.” I had refined my flight reflex over the years but this time I decided not to run. After all, it was just Twitter right? What could happen?
For the next month or so we sent each other direct messages every night. Our conversation was easy and over time it turned from friendly to familiar to flirty. I’m not even sure how it happened. He went from being a stranger on the internet to someone who gave me butterflies with his Twitter notifications. Finally, on a warm August day, we met in person for the first time in front of the Thomas Wolfe house in downtown Asheville. We have been together ever since.
 
Looking back, I suppose it’s not unlike how a relationship starts through other mediums, whether in person or online. You notice each other, you talk, your conversation deepens, feelings develop, yada, yada, yada, you get married. Though it was a bit unconventional at first, our relationship grew organically. We didn’t start talking with any expectations of a relationship. It just happened. Thank you Twitter!
 
Tell me in the comments, how did you meet your partner? Do you know anyone else who met through Twitter? Here are a few other stories I found about couples who met on Twitter.
 
True Story: I Met My Husband on Twitter (Originally posted here: My Twitter Love Story)
 
I met my wife on Twitter.
 
We’re Getting Hitched! How I Met My (Almost) Husband on Twitter
 

10 Comments

  1. Tori on March 31, 2017 at 3:41 pm

    This is such a cute post! I love that you have the screen grabs from your first exchanges together. This could be a the start of a romantic comedy!

    • Courtney on March 31, 2017 at 4:57 pm

      Thanks Tori! It is fun to have a record of our first interactions!

  2. Brittany on April 3, 2017 at 8:40 pm

    Courtney,

    This post was so fun to read! I actually met my husband on myspace (yes, the good ole days). We had a mutual friend and started messaging back and forth through myspace before exchanging numbers and then eventually meeting in person. The rest is, as they say, history!

    I also just realized something – you met your husband via twitter, I met my husband via myspace, and I’m not sure if you’ve heard of them or not but Chris & Bev (from Married Without Children podcast) met, well re-met, via Facebook. The childfree certainly know how to find love on social media, ha!

    Great post. I’m looking forward to reading more of what you’ve written!

  3. Courtney on April 3, 2017 at 10:30 pm

    Thanks Brittany! MySpace?? That is impressive! Social media is the way to go! I will check out their Podcast, thanks. I’ve actually been looking for new Podcasts to listen to while I work or walk.

    I’m just getting started but I’m trying to post once or twice a week so be sure to check back!

  4. Kaci Creed on April 8, 2017 at 8:03 pm

    This was fun to read. I always wondered how you guys met!

  5. Ali on June 30, 2017 at 4:50 am

    Thanks for linking to my story! (Sorry I’m just now noticing this…) It does feel like an odd way to meet someone, right? When I met Andy (my now husband) I was just really getting into travel blogging and Twitter, and I had already met a bunch of fellow travel lovers in Atlanta, where I was living, through Twitter. So even though it was much weirder to meet a guy through Twitter who was living across the ocean and fall in love with him, after a little while, it felt natural somehow. I think these days people are a little less shocked when I tell them we met through Twitter, but since it usually comes up when people ask how we ended up in Germany, and clearly we didn’t move at the same time, they start really questioning the whole thing. And then they’re really surprised – “You were living in different countries? You didn’t meet in person for over 4 months?” Etc…. We just had our 6 year wedding anniversary, and I still sometimes can’t believe how it all happened!

    • Courtney A. Casto on June 30, 2017 at 12:01 pm

      It is pretty impressive you were in different countries and connected through Twitter! Congrats on 6 years!

  6. Ali on December 18, 2017 at 11:53 am

    OK I’m clearly going down the rabbit hole of your blog but I had to comment — my bf & I met on Twitter also! It’s such a random thing but I NEVER thought I’d meet the person I was supposed to be with on a dating app; it just never felt right. The problem was, my social life changed and I found myself not really “out” anymore either. Who knew Twitter was the place to go to find good men??

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