Fresh Air and a Fresh Take

March 20, 2018 / 3 Comments

Oh my, it’s been awhile. Hello again. I was on such a roll and then, then I just stopped writing. No, it wasn’t you. It was me. I started hibernating and couldn’t stop. Today I popped up for some fresh air and a fresh take on life.   Let’s see,…

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January is Not My New Year

January 18, 2018 / 16 Comments

After reading post after post, year after year, about goals and resolutions and starting fresh in the new year, I have had a much needed realization. January is a terrible time for me to start anything and I am doing myself a disservice by believing otherwise.   From now on,…

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My Anxiety Confessions

January 11, 2018 / 12 Comments

One of the first posts I wrote for my blog was about anxiety. It was written as a way for me to practice both free writing and vulnerability. It’s a fairly popular post people visit when perusing my blog, so I thought I’d write a sequel with a few of…

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The Day I Stopped Eating Potatoes

January 8, 2018 / 17 Comments

I grew up primarily in southwestern Pennsylvania and like many families in the area, potatoes were a big part of family meals, especially dinners. I never particularly cared for potatoes but in my house you ate what you were served.   Mashed, scalloped, twice baked, you name it, we had…

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Marry Someone Resourceful

January 4, 2018 / 12 Comments

I have been married for just over a year and I think it’s time I offer some marriage advice to my readers. Marry someone resourceful, someone who is more resourceful than you.   This piece of advice comes after a week of battling frigid temperatures with a struggling furnace. We…

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My Year of Fire

January 1, 2018 / 16 Comments

Hello 2018. It’s nice to see you. The bar has been set pretty low for you. Try not to disappoint, okay? More love, less hate. Ultimately that’s all I want out of 2018.   2017 was the first time I assigned a word to a year and that was pretty…

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Ringing Out 2017

December 31, 2017 / 9 Comments

It’s time to ring in the new year again, after we get past the shock that it is in fact a new year, again. Tonight we are ringing in the new year but today I am ringing out the old one. I, for one, am okay with 2017 being behind…

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The Truth About Santa

December 24, 2017 / 9 Comments

When did you find out the truth about Santa? Do you remember where you were and how you felt? Were you the older sibling who had to keep pretending you believed in Santa while you were around your younger brothers and sisters? Or were you the younger sibling, thinking everyone…

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Please Don’t Stash Me Just Anywhere: Why Being Single is Hard

December 21, 2017 / 14 Comments

I feel great compassion for everyone who is single and struggling this time of year. It can be hard. Really hard. For many years I traveled “home” for the holidays alone and if I’m honest, it was always hard.   My worst single Christmas was probably when I was 19.…

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Where Exactly Is Yesteryear and How Do I Get There?

December 18, 2017 / 16 Comments

Raise your hand if you went to a holiday party this weekend. Now raise your other hand if you wish you had stayed home on your couch watching Netflix instead.   Me too!   Oh, except that’s exactly what I did.   In a former life I loved holiday parties.…

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When Women Help Women

December 15, 2017 / 14 Comments

When women help women, what happens? Two things. One, we save the world. Two, we create stories to tell, like you’ll find here.   When I wrote my post about women being morbid sometimes, I didn’t anticipate the comments section filling with so many brave and heartbreaking stories. It’s overwhelming…

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How Strangers from the Internet Changed My Life

December 13, 2017 / 17 Comments

The other day I walked past a mirror and caught a glimpse of myself. I turned around, stared into my reflection, and thought, I’ve changed. How have I changed? When did this happen? And why?   For one, I have gotten noticeably, um, frumpier. The last time I got my…

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What Does Vulnerability Feel Like?

What Does Vulnerability Feel Like?

December 10, 2017 / 19 Comments

Until this weekend I thought I understood what vulnerability feels like. I didn’t. I didn’t have a clue.   I noticed a lot of new readers coming to my site over the past few days, thanks to the lovely blog Cup of Jo sharing my post on Friday, and my…

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Missing Holiday Joy

December 7, 2017 / 12 Comments

Have you ever written something or said something, stepped back from it, and asked yourself, “Is that what I really think? Is that actually how I feel?”   I just did that with this post and I had to start over. I wrote all about my childfree holidays and how…

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Breaking up with Football

December 5, 2017 / 12 Comments

Five years ago was the first time I equated football with the Gladiator. Before then I thought of it the same way I thought of any sport. It had rules and risks. Players occasionally got hurt but overall, it was fun to follow. Breaking up with football wasn’t something that…

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Why Women Are Morbid Sometimes

December 1, 2017 / 39 Comments

I haven’t participated in the #MeToo movement but that doesn’t mean I’m not part of it. From “dick pics” to inappropriate workplace comments to being followed, I’ve been there. I’ve felt unsafe, unvalued, violated, and vulnerable.   I didn’t realize how much I’ve adjusted my life because of men until…

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The Pink Eyed Monster

November 29, 2017 / 18 Comments

About a week ago I noticed my eye bothering me. It didn’t seem too serious so I did what I usually do – I went to bed and hoped it would go away.   It didn’t.   The next morning my eye was a little red and slightly puffy. I…

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How I Blew My Four Day Weekend

November 27, 2017 / 22 Comments

If you’re anything like me you are in denial that it’s Monday already. I’m staring at my computer screen feeling a combination of sadness, anger, confusion, and fatigue. I feel betrayed. Betrayed by the weekend for ending. I don’t have much to write about as a weekend recap because, newsflash,…

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Thanksgrieving is Real

November 23, 2017 / 20 Comments

Happy Thanksgiving everyone! Or does it feel like more Thanksgrieving to you? If so, I’m thinking about you.   I read through a lot of blog posts this morning and most were filled with happy thoughts and pictures about how wonderful today will be. It seemed like there was a…

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Advice to My Younger Self

November 20, 2017 / 15 Comments

I’m a previous chapter reader and re-reader. I often revisit my past in my head, sometimes for nostalgia, sometimes to ache, and sometimes to see if I can will my way back to give advice to my younger self. Overall I don’t have a lot of regrets but there are…

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